Whatever Happened to Good Old Fashioned Sex on a First Date?

Have I just got old or is meeting new people an antiquated way of doing things?

There was a time i'd go down the pub on my own and talk to whoever I met but nowadays I wouldn't dream of going out alone, and i'm not much of a drinker anyway so nowadays it hardly seems worth going down the pub for a few swift drinks just on the off chance I might get laid.

Now I like all of this new fangled technology stuff we have now and I even make a living out of it, but i'm less convinced by how we are using it, but:

I was catching up with the latest news from some friends I don't see often a few nanoseconds ago and of course these days that kind of statement meens I was reading an internet forum, and there was this kid talking about his latest relationship dramas.

The kid had been talking to his long distance girlfriend (this is modern English for "girl I speak to online") and he "dumped" her on Facebook. There was changing of facebook relationship statuses, and emo statements of heartbreak in newsfeeds.

Like everyone else born in the digital age I too am happy to meet people online: i've gotten involved with girls I met online; and i've met friends of boths genders from first knowing them in some virtual environment or other. I figure being yourself online gives you the privalege of connecting with other people and if the connection is good there's no harm in doing the same out in the real world either.

The problem is that at some point we stopped using computers as some device that we ocassionally use like a music player or the hoover and instead we made computers and mobile phones a fully integrated and interwoven part of our lives. They've stopped being a tool to enhance our lives and instead have become a part of it.

I'm as guilty as anyone, worse than most infact, at integrating technology into my life. But sometimes I just wish I could go out and get laid without having to go through the whole internet based "application to be somebody you might walk past in the street" process first.

Why does there have to be this extended exchange of conversation to reassure the other person that you are not an axe murderer when you could just meet up somewhere neutral and figure that out in seconds?

For some reason meeting people online is more drawn out and more complicated, there is a whole ettiquette that is important not to break or you get blocked in an instant because there's 30 million other potential datees out there.

Sometimes not using time saving technology makes life just that little bit more direct and simple.

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