What is the Correct Level of Clingyness?

Have you ever had a date or partner that was just a little bit too clingy?

When I told my friends about my recent date being too clingy for my comfort level they all laughed at me because apparently I have established a reputation for doing exactly the same myself.

This isn't suprising because I am a lesbian, and we lesbians are notorious for being clingy. There's an old joke in lesbian circles about bringing a removal truck to our second date and then getting a cat together.

And all this got me thinking: What is the correct level of clingyness?

I dated a girl once who I deliberately tried to hide my clingyness with, but after seeing her yesterday she informed me that my underlying level of cling was absolutely apparent.

Later on I spoke to a girl who I absolutely adore as a friend and have never dated, and she laughed at me too. Apparently i'm even clingy with her and we've never dated each other.

I think I might have changed, I may have reached a point where i'm just not comfortable with clingy any more. I've lived on my own long enough to start enjoying the personal freedoms that come with being on your own, has this led me to a place where I am perfectly happy by myself?

Was it simply a case that I was dating the wrong girl or have I changed so much that i'm looking for different things in my life than I was a few years ago?

Am I still clingy underneath? Is there a gigantic swelling of cling just waiting to latch on to the right girl? Or have I just reached another life stage?

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